Jun 12, 2020
Marlisse Hardamon
I would like to introduce myself, Lisa, a survivor.
Yes, I was
abused and suffered from the result of that abuse. Yes, I cried and
I even tried to end my life, several times. I hated myself and
everyone, else. I was bitter and angry. I lived in a place of
darkness, it covered my soul. I drank and smoked, just to numb the
pain. I lived in the world of victimization, unable to heal and
forgive.
But, today I dance in the light of my life, not as a
victim, but a victor. I have learned to not only forgive my
perpetrators but to forgive myself. I have learned to move past my
pain, not by pretending it never happened, but by drawing strength
from it, because it happened. I have been able to transform my
life, using my pain as a platform to show women, how to live a
transformed life, to move beyond their current situation into a
place of wholeness, peace, and joy. I am not a victim, I did not
let my life destroy me, it made me strong and taught me how to
truly live life.
Purpose: I was placed here to allow my light to shine through
adversity and trauma, so that I can be a beacon of light other who
are in traumatic situations and that I can love them through their
pain.
For more info, check out www.TransformationSpeaks.com
Here is what you will hear on this podcast:
- her mother was a victim of domestic violence at the hands of
her father
- the great escape
- living now with friends of her mom, they went from a middle
class lifestyle to an extremely low class home
- the big force and trying to latch the lock
- her first sexual assault and the silence she was forced to
keep
- from the frying pan into the fire
- the “I don’t want to talk about it” response.
- her mom turning her back because she didn’t know what else to
do
- breaking all ties with the friends that took her in
- feel the secrecy that exists in the silence demand by the
abuser
- the need to have control
- black people, lighter skin black people, preferential treatment
and racism
- are black people racist to other black people?
- the story of black men and black women
- the generational transfer from parent to child
- what happened when she was babysitting?
- the pivot point of getting mad
- how Marlisse made sure the abuse did not continue to her
children
- the pass down from one generation to another and the awareness
that makes it stop
- has every sexual offender been sexually offended. feeling
powerless and wanting to reclaim that power
- the pain that shuts down memory and how someone bypasses
it
- forgiving her perpetrators and forgiving herself too. what dd
she have to forgive herself for doing
- the angels that God sent her to help her walk through her
pain
- the story of telling her mom and how she received it
- what she would say to someone who is getting sexually or
physically abused
- the traumatization of assault, violence and abuse
- moving from the micro situation to the macro situation; going
from the abuse of a woman by a man to the abuse of a policeman to a
person; to a president to anyone who opposes him, to a sports
figure who stands up to the abuse of black people and gets punished
for doing do
- how do you know who you can speak to and how to trust them
- real change comes from a different mentality of people in
power
- feeling defiled by looking at the people that we look to, to
protect us, abusing us.
- the overwhelming presence of abuse in every segment of our
society
- how do those who have been abused stand up and come together
against their abuser?
- how do we get our humanity back?
- the importance of our voice and how important it is to share
our story
- passing legislation does not change the heart of man
- how insidious racism is and how it crept into my life too, and
how systematic racism exists in basically good people who believe
it is ok to beat his wife, speaks racist beliefs, strangle a man
with his knee?
- cameras cannot catch the sexually assault of young
children
- the result of coved-19 on the abuse child
- the importance of one man, a pastor in her life and does the
lack of presence of the neighbourhood church place a part in this
and how the church has changed.
- the lack of presence of the ministers of the church
- from the dance of life, what is the one thing she can give us
to reverse our direction
- if you want something, give it to someone else
- make a conscious effort to be there for others
- love not control:
- an amazing free offer she is giving to anyone listening to this
podcast
- each one reach one
to connect with Marlisse, please connect with her in one of
these ways:
Website: www.TransformationSpeaks.com
Email: TransformationSpeaks@yahoo.com
Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/marlisse-hardamon-9162a561
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/marlisse.hardamon.5
Transformation Speaks Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/583843761947784/
Instagram: https://insta.com/transformation1/
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